Interview With A Surrogate: Laura

Q:Why did you choose to become a surrogate?
A:Well I love to help!! I have been and egg donor and found it so rewarding to know I was helping people with their dreams of a child. As a retired egg donor I did not feel I was done helping in this way, I loved being pregnant and my family is complete. It felt natural to want to help now in this way.

Q:Is your family okay with your decision?
A:Yes, surprisingly all of them. I have some very conservative family members whom I thought were going to have a problem with this decision but to my surprise they have been nothing but supportive!!

Q:How was the experience of meeting the couple you are matched with?
A: I have to say I was nervous. I wanted to feel comfortable, like old friends, with a potential couple so my expectations were high. It turns out that we were all pretty comfortable in that first meeting which made deciding to work together easy.

Q:Has the process so far been what you expected?
A:Well honestly I expected I was in perfect health after being an egg donor twice this past year and did not expect any surprises when going in for my medical screening. To my surprise the Dr. found some uterine polyps that needed to be removed before moving forward with surrogacy. This has already taught me that anything can happen in surrogacy and to try not to have too many expectations; just to stay positive and do all that I can.

Q:Where are you currently in your surrogacy journey?
A:We are currently about to cycle, everything is done; contracts, medical and psychological screening, we are currently waiting on a calendar from the clinic and hoping for a December or January transfer.

Q:Do you think it will be difficult to give the baby to its intended parents after you give birth? A:NO!! I am so excited to be able to give this gift that I will be overjoyed!! And I really don’t want another baby, we are happily complete.

Q:Would you want to keep in contact with the child and its parents?
A:Yes, I feel like this is a journey that we are on together and hope to become closer and closer as we go along. I look forward to a lifelong friendship.

Q:Is it worth it to go to all this trouble in order to have a child that isn’t yours?
A:Yes, even though we do not want any more children, I am very much looking forward to being pregnant again. I loved it and still want that experience for myself and what a great way to help someone while doing something I LOVE. Also my faith has much to do with this decision. I have been blessed with fertility, have a beautiful family and believe it is my way to share, give back, help, purpose, however you want to word it. I am MEANT to do this.